Introducing: Constellations
Virtual Community + Friends & Dating Introductions
Hi, all,
Over the past five years, I’ve received near-daily messages through my website and social media from adults of all ages and backgrounds describing loneliness, social isolation, and how difficult it has become to build relationships. Many reach out hoping to explore the possibility of personalized matchmaking — and many are then confronted with the reality that it’s financially out of reach.
Over time, this pattern took a real toll on me. It was painful to realize that I was often hearing from people at the point where hope was already thinning — people beginning to feel shut out of existing systems and discouraged about their chances of forming friendships or romantic partnerships without significant financial resources and time investment.
I also learned — the hard way — that I can’t sustainably give six or twelve months of my life to everyone who reaches out, continue offering informal, unpaid coaching, or take on private clients at condensed price points without burning out. Last year made that limit unmistakably clear.
So I kept coming back to one question:
What could a more accessible alternative look like — one that’s practical, respectful of people’s time, and genuinely improves their odds of meeting compatible people?That question led to Constellations.
Constellations is a lower-cost, community-centered alternative to private matchmaking. It combines structured social support, optional introductions, and weekly coaching resources, with a focus on friendship and/or dating, depending on what you want. It is not personalized matchmaking — and it is not only for neurodivergent people.
That said, Constellations was created with my Neurodivergent District community especially in mind. What began as a small meetup group for neurodivergent adults grew to nearly 10,000 members worldwide, primarily across the U.S., the U.K., Canada, and other English-speaking parts of Europe. That growth was unexpected — and revealing. It made clear how many people are actively searching for neurodivergent dating or neurodivergent friends and finding very few spaces that feel structured, respectful, or safe.
What finally made Constellations possible was reaching a steadier point in my career and infrastructure. I’ve hired some support, been more selective about clients, and I now use AI — not to match people — but to organize and sort what had become an overwhelming database and automate some day-to-day operations. This has dramatically reduced the time burden and made this work more sustainable.
What a Constellations annual membership includes:
A low-pressure, facilitated community for friends, dating, or both
Optional introductions when shared compatibility is identified in the database
Virtual events and occasional in-person gatherings (primarily offered in major U.S. cities)
Weekly coaching articles, guest speakers, Zoom Q&As, and affinity groups
A biweekly newsletter with upcoming events, resources, and easy sign-up links
You can participate as much or as little as you’d like. Cameras and verbal participation in virtual gatherings are always optional.
Before access is granted, members complete a detailed intake form and sign a Community Agreement so expectations around respect, communication, and safety are clear.
Pricing: $208/month, billed annually.
Constellations is my attempt to respond honestly to a need I keep hearing about — without overpromising and without pretending I can do what I can’t. It won’t be right for everyone, but for many, I believe it offers a more realistic, humane way to build friendships and relationships over time.
If this resonates, you can get started by purchasing your membership here. You’ll receive the intake form and Member Agreement within 48 hours.
A full Q&A is included at the bottom of this email if you’d like more detail. Questions are always welcome — just email kate@harringtonmatchmaking.com or text 202-925-0001.
Warmly,
Kate Inez Harrington
Harrington Matchmaking & Neurodivergent District Founder
FAQ
What is Constellations?
Constellations is a year-long, neurodivergent-affirming membership designed to support meaningful friendships and, for those who want it, dating connections through structured community, clear expectations, and optional facilitated introductions.
It sits at the intersection of community-building and professional matchmaking. While informed by my work with neurodivergent adults, Constellations is open to people (18+) of all neurotypes.
Is Constellations for friends, dating, or both?
Both. When you join, you choose whether you are seeking:
Friendship only
Dating only
Both friendship and dating
There is no pressure to date. Many members join primarily for friendship and community.
Who is Constellations for?
Constellations is open to adults (21+) of all ages, identities, and backgrounds. Members join from across the U.S., Canada, the U.K., and beyond. The program is LGBTQ+ inclusive and welcoming to ethically non-monogamous (ENM) and polyamorous individuals.
Do I have to live in a specific city?
No. Constellations is primarily virtual and open to members everywhere. When there are others in your area and there is mutual interest, introductions can support in-person connection.
How does matching work?
Within 48 hours of joining, you receive a detailed intake questionnaire where you indicate what you’re seeking (friends, dating, or both), along with preferences, boundaries, and logistics.
This information is used to identify potential mutual fits within the community.
Are matches or introductions guaranteed?
No. Constellations does not guarantee matches or introductions. All introductions are optional and occur only when there is mutual fit and mutual interest.
What happens when there is a mutual fit?
When a mutual fit is identified and both parties opt in, a matchmaker from Harrington Matchmaking facilitates the introduction by email and supports next steps.
Matching and introductions are powered by Harrington Matchmaking — not an algorithm or app.
How is this different from private matchmaking?
Private matchmaking includes guaranteed introductions and a dedicated, individualized search and cost typically begins in the five figures.
Constellations is a more accessible, community-centered alternative that combines structured social support with optional facilitated introductions.
What kinds of events and programming are included?
Programming includes:
Virtual social hangouts and conversation-friendly meetups
Low-pressure speed-friending and speed-dating events
Guest speakers on communication, boundaries, dating, and social skills
Coaching resources and Zoom Q&As
Affinity groups (LGBTQ+, age-based, shared-identity or interest groups)
How often will I hear from Constellations?
Every two weeks, members receive a newsletter that includes:
Upcoming virtual events for the next few weeks
New coaching resources and offerings
Direct links to sign up for anything that interests you
Do I have to attend events or participate actively?
No. You may attend as much or as little as you’d like. Cameras and verbal participation are always optional. Quiet presence and observation are welcome.
What expectations do members agree to?
All members sign a Community Agreement that includes:
Respectful, direct communication
Timely responses and follow-through
A no-ghosting pledge
Brief feedback after first meetings
Baseline safety standards
All members also sign a confidentiality agreement.
Can I have a guardian, parent, or support person involved?
Yes. If you would like a guardian or support person to be CC’d on correspondence, you can specify this in the member intake form. You remain the primary member unless otherwise requested.
How is my information stored and protected?
We take privacy seriously. All information is stored securely and governed by our Privacy Policy and Terms of Service. Information is used only for program participation, matching, and community operations.
Is Constellations LGBTQ+ inclusive?
Yes. LGBTQ+ members are fully welcome, and matching respects sexual orientation, gender identity, and relationship preferences.
Is Constellations open to ENM or polyamorous people?
Yes. Ethically non-monogamous and polyamorous members are welcome. Relationship structures and boundaries are clearly indicated in the questionnaire and respected in matching.
What if I’m not sure what I’m looking for yet?
That’s okay. You do not need complete clarity to join. Preferences can evolve, and there is no requirement to pursue introductions.
Can I join just for the community and resources?
Yes. A lower-cost, sliding-scale community-only membership(no facilitated introductions) is available upon request.
Can I gift a Constellations membership to someone else?
Yes. If you are paying on someone else’s behalf, simply provide their email address at checkout. They will receive the intake form and agreements directly and must complete them before access is granted.
How much does Constellations cost?
$208 per month, billed annually ($2,500/year).
Sliding-scale community-only options (no introductions) are available.How do I get started?
Step one is to purchase your membership here. After checkout, you’ll receive the intake questionnaire and Community Agreement by email within 48 hours. Access is granted once all forms are completed and signed.
